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  • Writer's pictureBeckett Arnold

This is THE Question To Be Asking! June 19, 2020

𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐄𝐲𝐞𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 ~ 𝑺𝒖𝒏𝒈𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝑺𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔. 𝐕𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨 𝐈𝐕

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝟑?

Continuing from my video on Wednesday…”HOW TO COPE IN THE MIDST OF CORONAPOCALYPSE” – I shared a bit about my recent health crisis that started before shelter in grace…and how in early March I was DONE with life. I had no conviction to move forward with my healing. I saw no way out. Down in the depths of hell, having no answer of how I was going to make it through with all the medical expenses, rent, car, etc…whilst making zero dollars as a self-employed Life Transitions expert, I paused in sincere curiosity and asked Life, “𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝟑?!”

Did a concrete, obvious answer come? Nope. However, the action of ASKING THAT QUESTION was the magic. It put me in a place of 100% full acceptance of my situation. And in that place, and ONLY in that attitude, could I hear the whispers, the answers to my problems.

I knew with confidence that assuming I had to go with option 1 (get a job) or option 2 (run my business the way I was before my traumatic falls) was NOT an option. Well, for sure I am unemployable, 2) I’m not made that way, 3) the healing time of concussions/traumatic brain injuries are inconclusive, therefore, no way to jump into running my business Visible Transitions™️ at 100% mode.

Words, thoughts, and attitudes are powerful. They fuel either effective & favorable change, or INeffective and UNfavorable change.

For example, in our current climate, one topic we are focused on in earnest is Racism & Justice.

PONDER THIS: Using words and phrases like “Race AGAINST Racism: or “Anti-Racism” only fuels racism. Why? The word AGAINST and ANTI are a form of resistance and polarity. When we are in that dual state, it’s a war…we become victim to. Results?

So how do we use our upset, rage, anger, conviction as FUEL to create effective change?

With our attitude and words that are expansive, affirmative, declarative, and FOR/WITH, not against.

AND ask the question, WHAT IS OPTION 3? I invite this question in terms of the current dismantling of our immature systems (Justice and Racism.)


The moment of asking this question, we begin to move from resistance to calm. BTW resistance is both attachment and aversion. We can channel rage, anger, upset, and heartache into USEFULNESS.

– now we can more easily access our gut instinct, intuition, creativity, emotional intelligence, and critical thinking. What’s so important about that?

– again we can see the answers to create effective change. We see the 3RD OPTION that was not visible to us whilst in our resistance.

– now our productivity (capacity and energy) is surging, we feel more expansive rather than restricted victim mode.

– this question brings us from victim to conviction. Grounded in our personal power, our unique gifts that we are meant to share with the world.

– helps us make informed choices that bring about that useful change which lies in the 3RD OPTION!

Now is the time to rewrite the script of our lives, of our systems.

With this question, WHAT IS OPTION 3, our accountability (which is freedom btw) takes precedence over victim mentality and is sourced from CURIOSITY. Yes, accountability is sourced from curiosity NOT assumptions.

Today take 5 minutes to pause in curiosity and ask the question, what is option 3?

Ask if for yourself first, as all change comes from you, not externally. Then ask it for the world and your fellow human beings, even the ones you don’t like.

Remember to 𝐒𝐔𝐁𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐁𝐄 to my channel to follow 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐄𝐲𝐞𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 ~ 𝑺𝒖𝒏𝒈𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝑺𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔 to be and stay inspired!

(𝐶ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦 𝑚𝑒, 𝑡𝑦𝑝𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦 𝑚𝑦 𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑡, Christin Zamora)

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